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Say It Kindly: Build I-Messages, Blame or Kind and Fix-It Cards

Children learn the I-message pattern 'I feel... when... I need...', sort blaming and kind sentences with B or K, match oops moments to repairs and think how a classmate might feel.

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Big Feelings Calm Quest Big Explorers Activity Pack: Feelings Words, Calm Tools, Puzzles & Games for Ages 7-10

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How to use this worksheet

Fill in the I-message builder using the feelings bank, write B or K for each sentence, draw lines from each oops moment to the best repair, and answer the two walk-in-their-shoes questions.

Materials needed

  • Pencil
  • Crayons

Extension activities

  • Write an I-message for a real situation.
  • Practise a repair for a mistake you made.
Hemsweta Jain (Teacher Cheena), founder of RaisoActive

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Hemsweta Jain · Teacher Cheena

MBA and Early Childhood Educator, teaching since 2014 · Founder of RaisoActive, Mumbai

Every RaisoActive worksheet is designed and checked by the founder before publishing.

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