Say It Kindly: Build I-Messages, Blame or Kind and Fix-It Cards
Children learn the I-message pattern 'I feel... when... I need...', sort blaming and kind sentences with B or K, match oops moments to repairs and think how a classmate might feel.
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Big Feelings Calm Quest Big Explorers Activity Pack: Feelings Words, Calm Tools, Puzzles & Games for Ages 7-10
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Fill in the I-message builder using the feelings bank, write B or K for each sentence, draw lines from each oops moment to the best repair, and answer the two walk-in-their-shoes questions.
Materials needed
- Pencil
- Crayons
Extension activities
- 1Write an I-message for a real situation.
- 2Practise a repair for a mistake you made.

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Hemsweta Jain · Teacher Cheena
MBA and Early Childhood Educator, teaching since 2014 · Founder of RaisoActive, Mumbai
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